I talk a lot in my work about ‘holding space’. I love this article that describes what exactly that means. Head on over to glowdoula.com.au to read the whole article. What does Holding the Space Mean?
In a strictly spiritual sense, to “hold space” for another is to make yourself a centering force. To hold the space for a woman giving birth is make yourself the rock-solid ground beneath while labour throws everything it’s got at her. It means passing no judgement or holding no sway over her decision making, nor her perception of her experience. It means not trying to fix the unfixable, or reason with the unreasonable. It means accepting that there will be times in labour when she comes a bit unglued, and will be convinced she can’t do it – and knowing what she needs to hear (and doesn’t need to hear) when that time comes. It means making it emotionally safe for her and her partner to live through this most intense of experiences in their own way, and to feel whatever emotions come with it. It means making sure they know there’s a safe space if and when they need to talk afterwards.
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